You may think that women want someone who is buffed and tanned and looks like a bodybuilder model from GQ. Those things are nice and yes we like to look at those guys, but just like you don't need for us to look like Victoria Secret models we don't require it in our man. OK. The 13 most important qualities that women look for in a man are:
1. Honesty
2. Intelligence
3. Nice Smile
4. Sense of Humor
5. Manners
6. Sensitivity
7. Sincerity
8. Gainfully employed
9. Has own place
10. Owns a car
11. Affectionate
12. Considerate
13. Thoughtful
OK. First things first. Honesty is the NUMBER ONE trait that women look for in a man. That doesn't mean to be brutally honest and tell her she looks fat. (Never do that) but we want to know that we can trust that what you are telling us is the truth. If you've lied in the past it will be a very cold day in Hell before she trusts you again. And she may want to check your phone messages and read your email and call you 10 times a day to feel secure that you're trustworthy again. You may not like that but if you lie it may be the price you have to pay.
Intelligence: Women want to feel safe and protected and we want our men to be smart. Maybe even smarter than us. Women feel that your brain is your sexiest organ. So dazzle us with your brain and you will be surprised how stimulated we become. Kick her ass at "Jeopardy" and watch what happens.
Smile: We love your smile. We can't get enough of it. It makes us want to touch you and kiss you. So brush and floss and see your dentist and keep your mouth kissably fresh.
Sense of Humor: If you can keep us laughing you are golden. We love to laugh and we love a man who can make us laugh. This goes back to the smart thing as well. You have to be smart to be humorous. We like a man who's humor challenges us. Leave that 3 Stooges stuff for the guys. Women don't appreciate 12 year old juvenile humor.
Manners: Little things like manners are very important. Women don't want their man to drive up and reach over from the driver's seat and open the passenger door or just wait for us to open the door. A little old fashioned chivalry goes a long way. Escort the lady to the car and open the door for her. We love to be treated like queens. It makes us feel like you think we're special. And hopefully you do think she's special. We love a man with manners. We know we can take him home and our parents will love him. We don't want to have to worry about what you might do or say. We want to be with a man not a boy. That means no farting, belching, toe or nose picking, spitting, or smacking your lips when you eat. We want to know we can take you in public and we won't be embarrassed. And don't forget we also like to show you off to our girlfriends and we want them to approve. You want the girlfriends to think you're a "Keeper".
Sensitive: That whole thing about being "Sensitive" and getting in touch with your "Feminine Side" are all very true. A woman is waaaay more attracted to a man who isn't afraid to show his feelings and be gentle and sensitive. We actually think that makes you more manly. A man who clams up and thinks being macho is what we want is very wrong. One of the things that is extremely attractive to a woman is when it's obvious that you are attracted to us. There is nothing hotter than seeing how much we turn you on. Don't be afraid to show that. But of course there are limits and this can easily be overdone. Be careful about showing things like that at work or you might find yourself in a sexual harassment situation. And if you decide to try to tip your hand to a woman and show your interest, remember to keep it subtle. No woman likes a STALKER or a HORNDOG! We love to know that we are getting to you, but not in an obnoxious way. You may have to make some changes in your behavior. But of course, they'll be changes for the better and you will most likely be happier for it.
Sincerity: This is a little like honesty, but what I mean is if you need to change some of your behaviors to be more attractive to women then don't just do it to get the girl. This is something that has to be real. If you think that's not you, then maybe you should think about making a change. You can decide you don't want to change, that you like yourself the way you are, but if that was working for you then you probably wouldn't be reading this article. You were drawn to this piece because you must truly want to know how to be better with women and if you sincerely do then you may need to take an honest look at yourself and decide what you want because it has to be real.
Employed: OK. This is a no-brainer, but truthfully there are some men out there without jobs that think they can get all the women they want. I have no idea what makes them think that, but their egos are on overtime. Women need security and we want a man who can provide for us. That doesn't mean we don't want to work, but it does mean that we want to know that you are a responsible MAN.
Has Own Place: OK. Matthew McConaughey was really cute in Failure to Launch but that was a comedy. Seriously we don't want to have a sleepover at your Mom's house. Having your own place just shows us again that you are a responsible adult. And it does help if your place is decorated nicely. I don't mean you have to hire a decorator, but we're not drawn to frathouse chic. Impress us with your style. Again we want MEN not BOYS!
Has Own Car: This may not be important if you live in New York or in a place where the public transportation makes owning a car unnecessary but in most of the world you need a car to pick up your date and take her out. It is important to mention here that even though we love luxury cars we don't need that in our man. Women love men with all kinds of cars, but FYI keep your car clean (especially the inside). Nothing says SLOB more than a dirty car. Take out the fast food wrappers and keep it neat and smelling nice.
Affectionate: We really do love to touch and be touched. And I am not talking sexually here. But try holding her hand when she's not expecting it or gently rubbing her back. Little touchy things like that mean a lot. Rub her arm when you're reading the paper or do little things like foot and hand massages. Women love that.
Be Considerate: We appreciate the little things like holding a door open or not walking ahead of us. If we're sleeping make sure you turn out the light when you leave. Show her you care by picking up after yourself. When you get some dessert out of the fridge ask if she'd like some or make sure you leave some for her. Just basic consideration is so important to us.
Thoughtfullness: This may sound like consideration, but it goes a little further. Being thoughtful of her needs goes a long way. Maybe give her a call from work just to see how she's doing. While we love that we don't want to be smothered with a bunch of calls all day long. Bring something home for her when you go to the store, like some fresh flowers (I know that's cliché, but that's because it works) or maybe some of her favorite ice cream...just because. This shows us that you are thinking of us and that makes us feel important and special.
Those 2 words important and special should be burned into your brain. If you can always make a woman feel important and special you will be an irrisistable Chick Magnet.
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The Parable I Like
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world.
Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.
ONE: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone's hand.
TWO: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil.
THREE: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.
FOUR: The most important part of you will always be what's inside.
FIVE: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark.
No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.
The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.
Now replacing the place of the pencil with you; always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.
ONE: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you place your Trust in God.
TWO: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems, but you'll need it to become a stronger person.
THREE: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.
FOUR: The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside.
FIVE: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark.
No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties. By understanding and remembering, let us proceed with our life on this earth having a meaningful purpose in our heart.
Here Comes the Spiderman
With the rapid development in IT and discoveries, here comes the new "Under Development". The Miracle material of the future and clothing that cannot only s as body armor but also help humans climb walls like Spiderman.
Nicola Pugno a structural engineering professor at the Polythecnic University in Turin, Italy has published a paper that outlines how carbon nanotubes could be used to create super-adhesive boots and gloves capable of supporting human weights.
This reaserch by Pugno was inspired by the way geckos and spiders are able to scamper up and down vertical surfaces. Geckos stick becausethey have thousands of tiny-fibers on their feet that creates adhesion thru capillarity action (due to the thin layer of water between their feet and surface) and the van der waals force (close molecules bonds). A spider climbs a vertical syrface relies on a nano-interlocking fibers.
In order to duplicate these adhesive in a human scale, Pugon theorizes that a material could be made from millions of carbon nanotubes woven into 1cm-thick threads. At the end of each thread, the nanotube would fan out to provide millions of points of contact between the material an, creating enough adhesive force to support the weight of 150-pound man. Although this is currently a theory, Pugno hopes that a prototype could be developed from his calculation of 10years. If this gonna happen we'll gonna see are ourselves climbing walls of buildings and not using stairs or elevators anymore.
My Halfway Journey
She's a traveler. She loves to explore the world and discover what lies on the other side or to simply enjoy the beauty of nature.
But among her many journeys, the recent one is exceptional. It is compulsory and work-related. Not intended for fun or pleasure.
The trip is done twice or thrice a week - routinary actually. It is an uphill climb through the long and yet winding road that tends to make her dizzy everytime. Relief would only come once she's stepped her feet out unto the ground and smell the scent of the soothing country air.
She always consider her destination as a temporary haven. A breakaway from the four walls that isolated her from the reality outside (though, the isolation is more of a personal choice). The same four walls that seemed to close in on her lately and is somewhat squeezing her tight - or so she thought.
And today, she's bound to undergo this routinary trip again.
This time, she squints into the platinum sunrise that glared through her eyes. Up ahead, the cemented road sparkled like granite under the unencumbered sun.
She can hear the roar of the car engine mixing with the rushing of the winds as they drive past road signs and the lush green scenery. For awhile, she thought she recognized the sound - IT IS THE SONG OF HER LIFE. Sighing, she thought that maybe, they're now treading down memory lane. It is all Dejavu'ish. A reminder of an ancient memory of what she used to hear during her childhood days - that weekly trip to her grandmother's hometown. A feeling of homesickness.
And now, the SONG resonated with the power of a symphonic crescendo. Exalting her.
She then realized that - this is not a temporary insanity but rather,it is a rare moment of clarity. An awakening that within these borders surrounding her,lives the JOURNEY and the ARRIVAL - THE HEALING AND THE HEALED.
She feels that she needs to embark on another purposeful journey. It would be her one chance to change the course of her life - To find the melody of the SONG and complete it.
Initially, her mind begins to wander and she lets the adventure to just begin...
She opened herself up and started to:
Nevertheless, she knows that she's bound to arrive.
For now, she only have to let tomorrow worry about tomorrow while she dared to take the ultimate leap of faith unto the unknown. She somehow realized that it wouldn't matter whether she lands on her feet or not, afterall, SHE COULD always LEARN TO FLY and still soar the world.
IT's a neverending journey.
And, she's almost halfway there....
But among her many journeys, the recent one is exceptional. It is compulsory and work-related. Not intended for fun or pleasure.
The trip is done twice or thrice a week - routinary actually. It is an uphill climb through the long and yet winding road that tends to make her dizzy everytime. Relief would only come once she's stepped her feet out unto the ground and smell the scent of the soothing country air.
She always consider her destination as a temporary haven. A breakaway from the four walls that isolated her from the reality outside (though, the isolation is more of a personal choice). The same four walls that seemed to close in on her lately and is somewhat squeezing her tight - or so she thought.
And today, she's bound to undergo this routinary trip again.
This time, she squints into the platinum sunrise that glared through her eyes. Up ahead, the cemented road sparkled like granite under the unencumbered sun.
She can hear the roar of the car engine mixing with the rushing of the winds as they drive past road signs and the lush green scenery. For awhile, she thought she recognized the sound - IT IS THE SONG OF HER LIFE. Sighing, she thought that maybe, they're now treading down memory lane. It is all Dejavu'ish. A reminder of an ancient memory of what she used to hear during her childhood days - that weekly trip to her grandmother's hometown. A feeling of homesickness.
And now, the SONG resonated with the power of a symphonic crescendo. Exalting her.
She then realized that - this is not a temporary insanity but rather,it is a rare moment of clarity. An awakening that within these borders surrounding her,lives the JOURNEY and the ARRIVAL - THE HEALING AND THE HEALED.
She feels that she needs to embark on another purposeful journey. It would be her one chance to change the course of her life - To find the melody of the SONG and complete it.
Initially, her mind begins to wander and she lets the adventure to just begin...
She opened herself up and started to:
- WELCOME A NEW DAY which is everything she always failed to appreciate knowing its unpredictability to be either stormy, sunny or just plain blue.
- WELCOME PAIN which is everything she's always feared to feel and yet the very thing which teaches her to be strong.
- WELCOME MAGIC which is everything real and yet she cannot see.
- WELCOME CHANGE which is everything she thought is inevitably tragic and yet realize that it's a necessity to living still.
- WELCOME INSANITY which is everything unexplainable. A thin line between irrationality and logic.
- WELCOME FAILURES which is everything she dreaded and yet can't be helped at most times.
- WELCOME LOVE which is everything she hoped, could teach her on how to perfect free-falling without looking like a total fool.
Nevertheless, she knows that she's bound to arrive.
For now, she only have to let tomorrow worry about tomorrow while she dared to take the ultimate leap of faith unto the unknown. She somehow realized that it wouldn't matter whether she lands on her feet or not, afterall, SHE COULD always LEARN TO FLY and still soar the world.
IT's a neverending journey.
And, she's almost halfway there....
An Educated Heart
An educated heart... is considerate. It recognizes and acknowledges the best efforts
of others despite the fact that the outcome is not up to par with expectations;
An educated heart... is patient. It bears in mind that even Rome was not built in a
day and rushing the metamorphosis of a butterfly may end up with a disproportionate and useless wing;
An educated heart... is ready to share ever mindful that no one has the monopoly of knowledge;
An educated heart... strives to rise above the worldly and prurient conscious that the
mind lies above the heart;
An educated heart... believes that togetherness is much like a song, some own the words
while others the tune. Shunning discordant notes aside, a simple melody has the potential
to transform into a grand symphony.
of others despite the fact that the outcome is not up to par with expectations;
An educated heart... is patient. It bears in mind that even Rome was not built in a
day and rushing the metamorphosis of a butterfly may end up with a disproportionate and useless wing;
An educated heart... is ready to share ever mindful that no one has the monopoly of knowledge;
An educated heart... strives to rise above the worldly and prurient conscious that the
mind lies above the heart;
An educated heart... believes that togetherness is much like a song, some own the words
while others the tune. Shunning discordant notes aside, a simple melody has the potential
to transform into a grand symphony.
Ways To Seduce A Woman
This is a guide to help you win over a woman that you have a genuine interest in. If you are just looking for a one night stand then this article probably won't help you much. Lesson one, satisfaction comes with a sincere relationship and learning each others likes and dislikes. That being said, I hope you find something useful here that will help you give the woman of your dreams a reason to look your way.
Be sincere. Compliment her on something you truly admire. Hollow compliments can often be sensed. A compliment that she knows you mean will have much more impact. This doesn't mean you can throw out a compliment and then get naked, but it is a good first step. The compliment should NOT be 'you have great knockers.' Go for the eyes, hair, intelligence, sense of humor, something along those lines. On the other hand, too many compliments can come off sounding insincere. One or two sincere compliments are best.
Listen to her. She will give you clues about what she likes. At some later time, you can show that you remember what she has said and it makes a difference to you. This will earn you big points.
Be real. Don't exaggerate to make yourself sound better. Don't tell her lies just because you think it will help. These things have a way of turning around and biting you.
Don't offer advice unless asked. It could come off sounding like you are telling her what to do. Just listen and be supportive.
Do not talk about sex unless she brings it up. This one is pretty self explanatory.
Don't act desperate. Just let things flow naturally. Desperation is an unappealing quality in either sex. Playing a little hard to get can actually be appealing.
Avoid talking about yourself too much. Let her talk and if she wants to know, she will ask. An ongoing conversation about how big your muscles are or how fast your car is will not score many points. Bragging about how well endowed you are is a big no-no too. On the other hand, silence doesn't work either. Look around and find something to talk about. Preferably about her.
Avoid letting your eyes wonder to other women when you are with her. Talking about other women or your ex are both no-no's too. If you are out with her, let her know you like being with her by respecting her feelings and keeping your eyes and mind on her.
Treat her with respect. Don't call her chick, broad, dude or any other name unless you have been together for a while and you come up with pet names for each other. Respect is crucial and a good woman will not be interested in sex with you until she knows you respect her. If a one night stand is what you have in mind, then don't lead her into believing you want a relationship with her. Playing with her feelings is cruel and something no one should do to anyone.
Don't make her feel like because you have spent money on her, she should sleep with you. Making her feel this way will generally have the opposite affect. All you have bought is her time and the opportunity to prove to her that you are worth a second look. The rest is up to you.
Be sincere. Compliment her on something you truly admire. Hollow compliments can often be sensed. A compliment that she knows you mean will have much more impact. This doesn't mean you can throw out a compliment and then get naked, but it is a good first step. The compliment should NOT be 'you have great knockers.' Go for the eyes, hair, intelligence, sense of humor, something along those lines. On the other hand, too many compliments can come off sounding insincere. One or two sincere compliments are best.
Listen to her. She will give you clues about what she likes. At some later time, you can show that you remember what she has said and it makes a difference to you. This will earn you big points.
Be real. Don't exaggerate to make yourself sound better. Don't tell her lies just because you think it will help. These things have a way of turning around and biting you.
Don't offer advice unless asked. It could come off sounding like you are telling her what to do. Just listen and be supportive.
Do not talk about sex unless she brings it up. This one is pretty self explanatory.
Don't act desperate. Just let things flow naturally. Desperation is an unappealing quality in either sex. Playing a little hard to get can actually be appealing.
Avoid talking about yourself too much. Let her talk and if she wants to know, she will ask. An ongoing conversation about how big your muscles are or how fast your car is will not score many points. Bragging about how well endowed you are is a big no-no too. On the other hand, silence doesn't work either. Look around and find something to talk about. Preferably about her.
Avoid letting your eyes wonder to other women when you are with her. Talking about other women or your ex are both no-no's too. If you are out with her, let her know you like being with her by respecting her feelings and keeping your eyes and mind on her.
Treat her with respect. Don't call her chick, broad, dude or any other name unless you have been together for a while and you come up with pet names for each other. Respect is crucial and a good woman will not be interested in sex with you until she knows you respect her. If a one night stand is what you have in mind, then don't lead her into believing you want a relationship with her. Playing with her feelings is cruel and something no one should do to anyone.
Don't make her feel like because you have spent money on her, she should sleep with you. Making her feel this way will generally have the opposite affect. All you have bought is her time and the opportunity to prove to her that you are worth a second look. The rest is up to you.
TIPS FOR HUSBANDS
“Likewise you husbands, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel” (1peter 3:7)
As the head of her relationship, the man is in a more critical position to determine the course and atmosphere of the home. It is essential that he relate wisely and with understanding to the mate God has given him.
The following are some areas he must understand about his wife:
1. A More Emotional Nature- A woman has been given a more emotional and sensitive nature than the man. She sees and feels things differently than her husband. This gives her the advantage of greater compassion and sensitivity, and the disadvantage of being more easily affected, influenced, and hurt. Don’t treat her like one of the boys but rather respect this part of her God-given nature.
2. A Need for Love- If marital counsel to husbands could be summed up in four words it would be, “Husbands, love your wives” (Eph. 5:25). When a woman feels truly loved by her husband, she enjoys a deep, inner security and peace. This love must be demonstrated daily in acts of kindness, preference and expressions of affection.
3. A Need for Self-Esteem- Many women struggle with low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of inferiority, and a lack of self-worth. Many also feel ugly, unattractive, unintelligent, and lacking in real virtues. Husbands compliment and encourage your wives! Build her sense of value and self-worth. As he head, she looks to you for much of her definition of herself.
4. A Need of Security- The man is to be the prime provider for his family. God has given him the charge of headship, and the main responsibility for financial support. By your ambition, work habits, and diligence, demonstrate to your wife that she can be secure with you as provider.
5. A Biological difference- The reproductive cycle of a woman affects he moods and feelings. During menstruation and pre-menstruation period, her estrogen and progesterone levels are at their lowest and this affects her emotional condition. Employ extra patience, understanding, and sensitivity during this time..
As the head of her relationship, the man is in a more critical position to determine the course and atmosphere of the home. It is essential that he relate wisely and with understanding to the mate God has given him.
The following are some areas he must understand about his wife:
1. A More Emotional Nature- A woman has been given a more emotional and sensitive nature than the man. She sees and feels things differently than her husband. This gives her the advantage of greater compassion and sensitivity, and the disadvantage of being more easily affected, influenced, and hurt. Don’t treat her like one of the boys but rather respect this part of her God-given nature.
2. A Need for Love- If marital counsel to husbands could be summed up in four words it would be, “Husbands, love your wives” (Eph. 5:25). When a woman feels truly loved by her husband, she enjoys a deep, inner security and peace. This love must be demonstrated daily in acts of kindness, preference and expressions of affection.
3. A Need for Self-Esteem- Many women struggle with low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of inferiority, and a lack of self-worth. Many also feel ugly, unattractive, unintelligent, and lacking in real virtues. Husbands compliment and encourage your wives! Build her sense of value and self-worth. As he head, she looks to you for much of her definition of herself.
4. A Need of Security- The man is to be the prime provider for his family. God has given him the charge of headship, and the main responsibility for financial support. By your ambition, work habits, and diligence, demonstrate to your wife that she can be secure with you as provider.
5. A Biological difference- The reproductive cycle of a woman affects he moods and feelings. During menstruation and pre-menstruation period, her estrogen and progesterone levels are at their lowest and this affects her emotional condition. Employ extra patience, understanding, and sensitivity during this time..
TIPS FOR WIVES
“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Prov. 31:10-12)
This scripture reveals something a husband greatly desires from his wife: a person he can fully trust. He needs to know that his wife is loyal, faithful, supportive, and protective toward him-someone who will not talk critically of him to others. He needs a true helpmate who will carry the yoke of life with him, doing him “good and not evil”.
The following are some important areas a wife must understand concerning her husband:
1. Respect and honor- “And let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph. 5:33).A man needs to know that his wife enjoys a reverence for him as a person as her head. This should be communicated by actions and words. Compliment him on the positive qualities of his character and leadership.
2. A Man’s Productivity- God made man’s identity to be linked to productivity. Your husband needs to feel that you appreciate his work and other areas of productivity, i.e. around the home, hobbies, spiritual labor, etc. much of this self-respect and sense of self-worth comes through his feelings of productivity.
3. His Home-His castle- The desire to provide for his family is at the base of a man’s willingness to punch the time clock day after day. His home is his castle and needs to be place where he can relax and be refreshed. Wives, be good homemakers. Make your home comfortable and attractive. Cook good meals. Do extra things to communicate your love and appreciation for your husband.
4. Male Sexuality- The sexual responsiveness of a man’s wife can do much to affect his male identity. Frequent turn-off and coldness at bedtime can be devastating to this area of male identity and need. A wife must understand this need in her husband and through her response, communicate her love and desire for him.
This scripture reveals something a husband greatly desires from his wife: a person he can fully trust. He needs to know that his wife is loyal, faithful, supportive, and protective toward him-someone who will not talk critically of him to others. He needs a true helpmate who will carry the yoke of life with him, doing him “good and not evil”.
The following are some important areas a wife must understand concerning her husband:
1. Respect and honor- “And let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph. 5:33).A man needs to know that his wife enjoys a reverence for him as a person as her head. This should be communicated by actions and words. Compliment him on the positive qualities of his character and leadership.
2. A Man’s Productivity- God made man’s identity to be linked to productivity. Your husband needs to feel that you appreciate his work and other areas of productivity, i.e. around the home, hobbies, spiritual labor, etc. much of this self-respect and sense of self-worth comes through his feelings of productivity.
3. His Home-His castle- The desire to provide for his family is at the base of a man’s willingness to punch the time clock day after day. His home is his castle and needs to be place where he can relax and be refreshed. Wives, be good homemakers. Make your home comfortable and attractive. Cook good meals. Do extra things to communicate your love and appreciation for your husband.
4. Male Sexuality- The sexual responsiveness of a man’s wife can do much to affect his male identity. Frequent turn-off and coldness at bedtime can be devastating to this area of male identity and need. A wife must understand this need in her husband and through her response, communicate her love and desire for him.
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